How do I even start? This question has been so crippling to me over the last few years. I got frozen with branding, and niches and fear of run on sentences and comma splices. Let’s not forget about the fear of rejection, fear of hateful comments, fear of no audience at all. I have also been very indecisive about where I could make a central home on the web to build and cultivate and I have finally made some decisions. Here I am.

When my ex-husband and I split up in 2012, I had to clean up the rubble of a life imploded. I knew how much I depended on him and I knew that this was not going to be a cake walk. This was going to be a journey, especially with being in a wheelchair. I don’t mind giving my ex the gratitude he deserves for helping me get steady before he went on with his life. He is currently happily remarried. I had different goals, I was on a journey of healing completely. We had been together for 16 and a half years and there was a lot for me to learn. Before we got married I was either in a relationship or living with my mother. So this was my first time adulting solo. It was at this time all of my decisions became 100 percent my own. So the last six years has been about getting to know me, my likes and dislikes, budgeting, dieting, and holistically taking care of myself. Dating went on the back burner so I could focus on me and cleaning up my life and reset my heart to be ready to try again.

Experts say that it takes 2 years for every year you were married to fully heal from a divorce. I thought that was a load of psychobabble until I started going through the process. Putting your finances back together and paying down debt alone takes years. I had other things thrown on top of it too like the death of one of my best friends. I gained a lot of weight because of stress. Then there was bouts of anxiety and depression. But one thing that remained consistent is my commitment to healing in a holistic way.

So if you are interested in my journey, my project, my hopes and dreams I invite you to stick around. So I guess we could call this a life style guide for the independent woman with a side dish of disability. I promised myself to just dive in and not obsess about the rest and let this website develop as I do. I am eclectic and that is ok. I think all of us are.

I plan to end December with gratitude. Hey, we can find something about 2020 to be grateful for! If nothing else we can be grateful that it is over! I still think we can come up with more than that!

See you soon!